The education of children has always been a very serious problem, but in recent years, some things have happened to teenagers. As parents and teachers, how should we educate our children?
Teenagers are a very special age group. They are experiencing the transformation and growth of physical and mental development and need the attention and guidance of parents, teachers and society. Here are some ways to educate teenagers and children:
1. Establish good communication channels.
It is very important to establish good communication channels with children from an early age, so that children can know that you can communicate with each other and share their joys and sorrows. This will help strengthen the parent-child relationship and help you better understand their thoughts and needs. In our family, both of us are willing to talk with our children and share our own things, and the children will gradually share his things, especially when the children like their mothers in the family. When the mothers are putting the children to sleep, they can lie in bed and talk with them every day before going to bed, so that the children can have a sense of trust in their parents. As parents, they usually communicate with their children. Don’t communicate with your child in the tone and manner of an adult, and don’t always tease your child in the way of a pet. You should be a friend. Whether he is 1 year old, 2 years old, 5 years old or 10 years old, parents should put yourself in his same age to communicate. This kind of communication is the most intimate and beneficial way for your child to really treat you as a friend.
2. Cultivate children’s self-esteem and self-confidence.
Help children build self-esteem and self-confidence, let them know their strengths and potentials, and at the same time accept their shortcomings and deficiencies. When they make mistakes, don’t be too harsh, but give them support and encouragement. In our family, we always encourage children to do things. Children used to love KFC and dip in ketchup, but every time they asked us to open it, the children really couldn’t open it, but we always told him that you could open it yourself. The children said I couldn’t open it. You try. If you really can’t open it, we are helping you. For things like this, children should not say that they can’t do anything, but try it later.
In our family, we don’t advocate cracking down on education. We take drum lessons for our children. There is a little classmate’s father who always scolds the children in class, "Why can’t you do this, you are so stupid, what are you thinking, and so on?" For a 5-year-old child, his face is red. In fact, children of this age are also proud. Over time, children will lose confidence and become inferior and withdrawn.
In our family, now that the child is 6 years old, what the child says most is "reward him for doing the right thing and comfort him for doing the wrong thing". This is the case with our family’s education for children.
3. Cultivate independent thinking ability.
Teenagers are at the stage of cognitive and thinking development, and they need parents and teachers to guide them to learn the ability to think and solve problems independently, rather than simply telling them what to do.
Because children often watch cartoons: happy face, big head son and the ever-changing meteor cartoon, in life, if we encounter problems, we will also intentionally ask our children what you think we should do, and the children will really think about it. I have the impression that from the age of 4, he will think and then say "there is a way". Although that way is not practical and nonsense, it will help children think about problems. At present, at the age of 6, you will find it in life. He really has his own way to solve some problems. For a simple example, the child wants to turn on the light, but it is a little short. Usually he will use a small stool, but today the stool is not upstairs, and the child doesn’t want to go down and get it. Just after getting up, the thermos cup is in his hand, and he turns it upside down and turns on the light with the bottom of the cup. It’s still a good idea.
4. Establish good study habits
Education is not only to finish homework and exams at school, but also to cultivate good study habits and methods, such as time management, planning, concentration, etc., so that children can decide when to study, play, wash and sleep, and form good habits, so that when they grow up, they will also have time and regularity.
As for attention, children must be prevented from playing with iPad and mobile phones. Why do you say that? In fact, I spoil my children. I pick them up at school and after school, including children going to remedial classes, so I know the situation of children best. Children are young. If we go out to eat or something, they can’t sit still, so they have to play. Otherwise, they have to watch their mobile phones. Because we are tired, we let them watch their mobile phones and wait for dishes to come. Over time, children get into the habit. As we all know, games not only attract children. Therefore, it must be controlled here. Like mobile phones, there are many funny little videos that children are forbidden to watch. During that time, the tutor told me that children were not focused, including ordinary children who would say, "You are a bad old man, very bad, you are really a tiger. And so on. " Let us realize that this kind of thing is affecting children’s health. Later, we stipulated that children should not watch it at ordinary times, but only on weekends. Later, we took him to play and tried not to let him stay at home, so we didn’t mention the iPad for a long time, and our couple took all the extra iPads to the unit. Then after about two weeks, the children’s attention in class was much better.
Nowadays, the popularity of electronic products is too high, and all kinds of games and short videos are gathered on the Internet, which is really a disaster for children with poor concentration and self-control. They can’t control their desire to play, and eventually they are depressed and miss the golden age of learning. At the same time, children have not yet established a complete world outlook, moral outlook and outlook on life, which will be easily affected by some negative information.
5. Cultivate social skills
Help children learn the skills of interacting, communicating and resolving conflicts, and let them know how to express themselves and cooperate with others in social situations. There are many children in the family, so many children are selfish, don’t know how to share, and don’t care about other people’s feelings. Therefore, as parents and teachers, we must pay attention to children’s social skills. Take KFC as an example. He likes to eat chicken paste. Every time we let him go to his aunt, not only to exercise the children’s courage, but also to exercise or socialize. There are many similar things, including children communicating toys and which children they like to play with. If two people quarrel, what kind of children they like to play with? This is very important for their future interpersonal relationship and career development.
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